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Dear Dr. Tic,
I've recently started to date a guy from the office. We've not told anyone of our relationship and intend to keep it low-key until we know more about how we feel about each other. What are your thoughts on dating in the workplace?
- Office Girl
Dear Office Girl,
Ah, office romance - so sinfully delicious. I'm sure this gent is truly amazing; full of charm, a nice smile, witty with just the right mix of bad-boy rebelliousness and Boy Scout veracity. I'm sure the relationship is progressing right along too. You have so much in common. You work at the same place, see the same people every day, know about the same business related stuff and both seem to fancy a dip in the office pool every now and again (wink, wink, nudge, nudge).
I won't go so far as to call you stupid; after all, you're only human. Humans enjoy romance and intimacy. Our modern world limits the amount of time we have available for meeting others so it would stand to reason that the office is as good a place as any to meet a suitable cuddle-bug. Perhaps slow is a better adjective. Yes, I think slow works quite well in this case. There is just something about the mixture of stale office air and hormones that seems to cloud (or slow) a person's cognitive abilities.
Let's be serious, what the hell were you thinking when you decided to taint the purity of the workplace with this crazy "low-key" relationship? Do you think that when your boss or HR finds out they'll send you two love-birds on an all expense paid vacation to the Bahamas in celebration of your clear violation of office policy? Do you really think you can keep this thing hidden from your co-workers, especially from the office gossip queen, Nancy in Accounting?
Unless you two work for a two person company, the best thing (career-wise) that can come of this is one of you having to move departments or perhaps even companies. The worst…well, you could both lose your jobs. I'm not trying to be overly dramatic (that's the wine talking). I simply want to point out that workplace romance is not always a great idea. I love to see romance blossom (after all, I am Dr Roman Tic) but I must caution you against doing something that could jeopardize your career for someone you're not even sure how you feel about. Take a step back, analyze a bit and then move forward again. Good luck.
You're Welcome,
 MokieCAT
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